Following your intuition
A psychotherapist once said to me Intuition favours a well stocked mind. At the time I desperately wanted to believe her but the line puzzled me. Being someone who believed more in the power of heart, rather than head, the idea that a well stocked mind could be the answer to better intuition confused me. I've struggled in a way to figure out what it means and whether I agree with it.
These are my current views:
Firstly, intuition can let us know lots of things, past and present, and sometimes our intuition is telling us that, for some reason, we feel unsafe. I think therefore we can have intuitive responses that say more about what we need to heal. We may feel fearful intuition about someone else or a situation that isn't based in truth but is embedded in a need to feel safer.
But then we can have intuition that is more objective, coming from a clearer place, that tells us more accurately what is going on for someone else, or in a certain situation, or on a larger scale. This could be described as a more conscious intuition. A more heartfelt intuition. Fearless intuition. This intuition might gently guide us.
So looking again at the phrase Intuition favours a well stocked mind, I become aware that I initially didn't like the term 'well stocked'. I viewed the phrase as judgemental, rather than compassionate and including sentiments of the heart. I found the phrase 'well stocked' so open to interpretation. 'Well stoked' could, like a supermarket, mean full of stuff. I don't necessarily think a full mind is the way of intuition. If it is stoked with items that embrace the heart, then maybe.
What I have discovered on my own personal journey and while reflecting on this phrase, is that our intuition is very much guided by our knowledge and experience and the state of our heart. And therefore, our intuition, does not always determine what is 'right' or 'wrong' in any given situation. Intuition involves perception and feeling and I now believe that our intuition is always endeavouring to either keep us safe or to guide us to a more open and loving place in ourselves, and in the world.
So, what do I mean by all this?
Well, rather than continuing in what feels like quite a wordy head-oriented way I'll try to give you three embodied examples of my own experience.
I am in a group setting and I feel uncomfortable. I feel like people are judging me and that I am not safe. Anxiety and dread kick in; adrenaline, cortisol and feelings of fear are flowing through my body causing a shortness in breath, a tightness in my chest, sweaty palms, a buzzy head and a general awkwardness about how to be, in this group and in my own body. I feel like running or hiding. I'm not coping. Everywhere I look I see confident people looking at ease and like they fit it. Everywhere I look I wonder whether people are judging me for how I am, and feel like they can see all my fragilities as if they were wrapped around me like a sign coated in dark vivid. What is my intuition telling me? It is telling me that I feel unsafe. But why do I feel unsafe? Does it have anything to do with the people in the room? Maybe. Does it have anything to do with my past? Maybe. Does it have anything to do with how I judge myself and other people? Maybe. Maybe it is one, two or all three of these things. All my intuition wants is to feel safe. Fullstop. The rest is so dependant on so many factors that I won't go into now.
I am in a group setting and I feel great. I feel connected to the other people in the room. I am comfortable; endorphins and feel good chemicals are flowing through my body causing my muscles to be relaxed, my breathing and heartbeat to be regulated and my mind to be at ease. I want to stay in this group, almost to the point where I don't want this feeling to go. I am fine with the world. Everywhere I look people seem loving and kind. I feel loving and kind. What is my intuition telling me? Is it telling me that I feel safe. Why do I feel safe? Does it have anything to do with the people in the room? Maybe. Does it have anything to do with my past? Maybe. Does it have to do with how I judge myself and others? Maybe. Maybe it is one, two or all three of these things. All my intuition knows is that it feel safe.
I am in a group setting and I feel great. I feel connected to the other people in the room. I am comfortable; endorphins and feel good chemicals are flowing through my body causing my muscles to be relaxed, my breathing and heartbeat to be regulated and my mind to be at ease. I am happy in this group. I am fine in the world. My experience of different people in this setting varies. Some people look kind and loving and like I want to approach them, and others look less approachable. What is my intuition telling me? It is telling me that I feel safer, or more comfortable, in some people's company than others but that that's ok. Why do I feel this way? Does it have anything to do with the people in the room? Maybe. Does it have anything to do with my past? Maybe. Does it have to do with how I judge myself and others? Maybe. Maybe it is one, two or all three of these things. All my intuition knows is that it feels fine but wants to be closer to some people and not so much to others.
All these intuitive states about how to keep ourselves safe, in a state of comfort or in an enjoyable place are intuitive states that guide us well... until our intuition changes, in another setting or after we have lived a while longer and learned more about ourselves. And of course it's healthy to be guided by the kind of intuition that keeps us safe, and well. How we respond to those intuitive feelings is up to us. I believe some people have a greater depth of intuition than others, fine-tuned or otherwise, and this can be due to being very sensitive and open, having a depth of experience and perhaps even being an old soul. It is our interpretation of our intuition that really matters. Trauma, and other life mishaps can discombobulate our intuition, and guide us in misinformed ways.
But how does all this link into the idea that intuition favours a well stocked mind? Firstly, I'd like to change 'well stocked' to 'peaceful' but then... that comes with a whole lot of connotations too... I'd like to be bold and say enlightened but that's not so common, so what about well informed?
When our minds are well informed, and self aware, then we can listen to our bodies and trust more in our hearts and therefore our intuition.
And if our minds, bodies and souls are in a place where our hearts can be open, then our intuition can guide us in beautiful and connected ways, with ourselves, others and the world around us.
Therefore, upon conclusion of my initial conundrum, I would prefer to say Intuition favours a well-informed mind or Intuition favours a well-balanced heart.
What would you prefer to say? Trust your own intuition.